Marissa Lingen shares some insight on why providing comfort isn't always comfortable or easy:
If you're going to be close with someone — especially if you're going to live with them — I think it's a good idea to know how you each handle crisis. Do you want to talk it out, cry it out, hug it out, in some other way deal with another person about it? Is primate grooming of fleas the order of the day when the other orders of the day have all been sucky? Or are you going off to your cave by yourself to either lick your wounds or just not think about it?
…forcing someone else to deal with their crisis points in your way is pretty damned insensitive, if you ask me.
I'm a cave-huddler, myself. This will come as no surprise to any who know my reclusive nature, of course 😉